How to have gay sex for the first time
If you think you need PEP, go to your local A&E or walk-in sexual health clinic – within 72 hours of the ‘incident’ happening.
Basically, you take a course of pills for a month that have proven highly effective in stopping HIV transmission. PEP (POST-exposure prophylaxis): If the condom has broken or if you’ve been barebacking, you should probably consider PEP. So, what’s the difference between PEP and PrEP? Here comes the science bit, concentrate… PrEP treatment is used to prevent HIV infection If a condom does break, or if you happen not to like condoms, which is up to you and your partner at the end of the day – there’s PEP and PrEP. Unlike Kimmy Schmidt, condoms are not unbreakable (if you don’t get that reference babes, get on Netflix). Or, it might make you look like you’re f**king every man that catches your eye (you lucky bugger), which might put off a potential boyfriend compared to a casual hook-up, so use your judgement. Keeping them on the bedside table sends a clear message that you’re into safer sex. Keep a few condoms in your wallet, or in the drawer next to your bed. Like any set of muscles, the ones in your ass need training. OUCH! (Steven Depolo)īut with practice, it gets better, and then it’s f**king awesome. If you’re new to getting f**ked, you might want to try riding your partner, so you’re in control of how much cock you’re taking at any one time. Anal sex PositionsĮxperiment with different positions to find which one is most comfortable for you. Use water-based lube as anything oily can cause a condom to break. The spit and shove you might see in porn only really works in porn (or for anal veterans who’ve been taking it for years). Put lube on your cock if you’re f**king, and inside your partner’s ass. Expand and contract your sphincter muscle, and each time you do this, let him enter you a bit more. When the tip of his cock is inside you, push out your sphincter. If you’re too anxious your anal sphincter muscle will tighten, and that means pain. It’s a bit of a cringe-worthy line, but ‘what are you into?’ usually works. Sure, lots of guys are versatile, but if you’ve already had ‘the chat’ you’ll know what to expect when it comes down to it. If you wait until you’re in bed together, naked and thrusting, one of you is more than likely to get a surprise.
At the very least that should probably be whether you prefer to be top or bottom, and what your opinion is when it comes to safe-sex. So talk to your partners about what you’re expecting or hoping for. Talk about anal sexĪnal sex is a team sport, of at least two. After it’s happened a few times you’ll see that it really isn’t such a big deal. Try getting darker sheets, and always keep baby wipes to hand to wipe off any unwanted mess.Īt the end of the day, it doesn’t really f**king matter – we’re all animals, so just laugh it off. If you’re planning on a long anal session, you could take an Immodium which should further minimise risk.Įven with all this planning, there’s always the risk of a bit of mess.
Basically, giving yourself an enema, with water from the shower hose (being very careful the water temperature and water pressure is constant), or from a ‘bulb douche’ which you fill with water then squirt up your arse. Douche is French for “shower” – so now you know (Mike Schmid)īut then I discovered douching. Once was on a beach in the dark with nothing to wipe ourselves with other than sand – OK, too much info. When I was in my teens, I had a few messy experiences that knocked my confidence. Although some guys don’t mind this, it can be a complete boner-killer and passion-destroyer. This is stating the obvious, but anal sex can be messy. If you’re nervous about getting f**ked, buy a dildo – then you’re in control. Finger yourself in the shower, find out what feels good for you and get used to the sensation of having something in your ass.
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It’s your body, it’s your butt, it’s your prostate – that’s the gland full of nerve endings that makes anal sex feel good. I wish I knew what I know now, when I was younger. When I was younger (I’m still in my very very late 20s, or very early 30s before you ask), I had some really painful experiences as a bottom, and some scarily messy experiences as a top.ĭuring gay sex, whether you’re top, bottom, versatile or have no idea (we’ll cover this another time), planning, practice, preparation and communication are all vital when taking it up the rear.
It wasn’t until my mid-20s that I got truly comfortable with anal.
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However, there is more to it and gay men (women too) need to understand how to have anal sex. If having anal sex was as easy as it appears in gay porn, I’d probably do it every day.